How to Recognize That You
Have a Crush on Someone
Three Methods:
Defining a ‘Crush’
Being Near Your Crush
Being Away From Your Crush
Defining a ‘Crush’
Being Near Your Crush
Being Away From Your Crush
Having a crush on someone can be both exciting and
terrifying. Sometimes, it's hard to determine if you even have a crush on
someone or not. Read the following sections to determine whether you have a
crush on someone or not.
Defining a ‘Crush’
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Know what a crush is. Urban
Dictionary defines a crush as “a burning desire to be with someone who you find
very attractive and extremely special.”[1] Crushes
make you feel crazy emotions--like feeling super shy and uncontrollably giddy
at the same time. You can’t choose who you have a crush on, but you can choose
how you react once you figure out that you have a crush on someone.
2.
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Know that there are different kinds
of crushes. The term ‘crush’ gets thrown around a lot. It can mean that
you simply have a passing infatuation with someone, or that you really like him or her.
·
The
Friendly Crush: It is important to remember that
not all strong feelings are romantic. Letting yourself trust someone and become
really close to someone, without necessarily having romantic feelings for
him/her, is a really special thing. Wanting to be around a person all the time
may just mean that you have gone from friends to best friends. Its totally normal to have a friend crush--you should want to hang out with your BFF as much as possible.
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The
Admiration Crush: When you idolize a person (like a
celebrity, teacher, or classmate who has done something really cool) you may
realize that you have really intense feelings about that person and what he/she
has done. These feelings might be mistaken for romantic feelings simply because
they are so intense. Feeling slightly awed in the presence of someone who has
done something amazing or can teach you great things is natural. Often, its
best to let a bit of time pass before really thinking too hard about these
feelings. Generally once you have spent a lot of time with this person, you
will have learned a lot from them and may begin to feel like you can stand on
equal ground. You may find that your crush-like feelings simmer down once the
initial awe of being in his/her presence wears off.
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The Passing
Crush: It is human nature to be attracted
to other people. Even if you are in a great relationship, you still might find
that you feel attracted to someone other than your boyfriend/girlfriend. This
attraction is what we call a passing crush-- this new person may seem new and
exciting, and he/she probably is, but that doesn’t mean you should reconsider
the relationship you are in or, if you’re single, drop everything to try to be
with him/her. Often times, passing crushes are spiked by being attracted--most
often physically--to someone.
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The
Romantic Crush: Sometimes having a crush on
someone really does mean you really, really like them--and in a romantic way at
that. Having a romantic crush means that you want to be with that person in
more than just a friendly way--you want to be his/her boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you fantasize about kissing, holding hands with, or cuddling with that
person, you probably have a romantic crush.
3.
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Figure out how serious your crush is. By
doing this, you can figure out how best to proceed--whether you should keep
your feelings to yourself or share how you feel with your crush. Read the next
sections to help you figure out just how strong you are crushing on that
special someone.
Being Near Your Crush
1.
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Consider your behavior around the
person you think you might have a crush on. Paying
attention to your physical behavior means noticing how you react instinctively
when your crush is around. Different people will react differently, and
generally it will be a subconscious reaction. Generally, when you have a crush
you will react in one of two ways--either by becoming really shy and
tongue-tied, or by becoming really outgoing.
·
The Shy
Reaction: Do you suddenly feel like you
might like to curl up into a ball when your crush is around? Do you blush
incessantly and can’t seem to raise your eyes up from that suddenly very
interesting speck of dirt on the ground? Do you suddenly feel like you don’t
have anything witty or interesting to say? All of these reactions point towards
having a crush.
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The
Outgoing Reaction: Do you suddenly feel the urge to
tease your potential crush? When he/she is around, do you get the sudden urge
to talk a lot because you want his/her attention? These are all symptoms of a
crush as well. Just make sure that you don’t make your crush uncomfortable if
you act this way--try not to tease him/her too much or he/she might not want to
hang out with you.
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The Flirty
Reaction: Do you feel like you want your
crush to notice what you are wearing or how your hair is done that day? Do you
feel like giggling and joking around? Maybe you suddenly feel the urge to make
sure you look as good as possible so that your crush will notice you. Batting
your eyes, flipping your hair over your shoulder, and playing with your hair
are all signs that you have a crush.
2.
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Consider how you feel around your
potential crush. The most common sign of having a crush is the feeling that
you have a million butterflies flying around inside you when that special
someone is around. It can also feel like your heart does a leap when you see
your crush and you feel warm and giddy.
·
Do you suddenly feel nervous but
excited at the same time? Maybe you feel like you want to hug that person or be
with him/her all the time. These are all normal reactions to having a crush.
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Do you feel like you would give up
anything to be near that person?
3.
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Notice how
you act around your friends and your crush. Having a crush can cause you to
suddenly want to be the star of the conversation, or not talk at all when your
crush is around. If you are talking with a group of friends and the person you
think you might have a crush on walks up do you do the following things, what
do you do? If so you have a crush, you will
probably do one of the following:
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Do you:
suddenly feel like you need to be the center of attention? You might find
yourself directing the conversation so that you can talk about something cool
you did in an attempt to impress your crush. You may even talk over one of your
friends so that your story can be heard. You might also try to make as much
contact with your crush as possible, keeping his/her attention on you.
·
Do you:
suddenly feel like you’re tongue-tied? Having a crush can sometimes make people
feel embarrassed and like they don’t have anything to say. If you are normally
talkative but suddenly clam up when that special person is around, you most
likely have a crush.
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Do you: feel
like your friends sort of disappear when your crush walks up? You may be
surrounded by people but suddenly all you can see is your crush. You might
smile a lot, even if what your friends are talking about isn’t funny. If your
friends asked you something, would you have a hard time paying attention to the
question because you’re focused on that special person? These are all signs
that you have a crush.
4.
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Decide whether or not you’re putting
more effort into your appearance. A major sign of having a crush on
someone is wanting to look nice around that person. Do you spend more time
getting dressed in the morning? Have you bought new clothes you thought your
crush might like? Do you spend an extra amount of time getting your hair or
makeup just right, just in case you see your crush that day? If so, you most
definitely have a crush.
Being Away From Your Crush
1.
1
Consider
whether or not your crush is all you think about. If you find yourself, thinking about
that special person more than you think about anything else, you most likely
have a crush.
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Perhaps you
are at dinner with your family but you aren’t paying attention to the
conversation because you are wondering what your crush is doing.
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Maybe you’re
hanging out with your friends but secretly you wish that you were hanging out
with your crush.
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When you are
going to sleep at night, do you think about what it would be like to kiss your
crush goodnight?
2.
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Notice
whether or not you talk about your crush a lot. Do you find yourself bringing that
person up in conversation with your friends all the time? A major sign that you
have a crush is when your friends tell you that you talk about that specific
person all the time. If you feel comfortable doing so, it would be a good idea
to talk to your best friends about thinking that you might have a crush on
someone. They can help you figure your feelings out and might have some ideas
about how to get to know your crush better.
·
Be careful
who you talk to about having a crush. Don’t just go blabbing to any random
friend about your crush. If you do that, someone might tell your crush and then
you might get embarrassed. Only tell your best friends--the friends you can
trust the most.
3.
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Consider
whether or not you’ve changed anything about your life with your crush in mind. Do you have any habits or patterns
you have gotten rid of or changed in the hopes of getting your crush’s
attention?
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Do you walk
by his/her locker a million times in the hopes of seeing your crush?
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Have you
changed the path you take to class because you know he/she walks that way?
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You have
taken a new and deep interest in a subject that you know your crush is
interested in, like photography or rock climbing.
4.
4
Pay
attention to your internal reaction when someone brings your crush up in
conversation. Often, when you have a crush, you will feel excited when your
crush gets brought up in conversation. If someone mentions your crush in
passing do you:
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Feel
excited? Suddenly get that feeling like a bunch of butterflies are flying
around your stomach? Feel like your heart might leap out of your chest? Blush
and giggle? Get tongue-tied and flustered? If any of these things happen, you
have a crush on someone.
5.
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Pay
attention to your daydreams. There is a difference between
thinking about someone and daydreaming about someone. Thinking about someone
means you wonder what that person is doing, or how he/she is feeling. Daydreaming
is when you fantasize about things that you want to happen. People who have
crushes on other people tend to daydream about their crushes a lot.
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If you
daydream about that certain someone and imagine you two going on adventures
together, holding hands, kissing, or anything romantic like that, you most
likely have a crush on that person.
6.
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Notice if
things remind you of your potential crush. Being reminded of that special
someone when listing to a song, watching a movie, or reading book is a definite
sign that you have a crush.[3]
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If you
listen to a romantic song and think, ‘Hey, that’s how I feel!’ you have a
crush.
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If you watch
a movie like Titanic and envision you and your special someone as Jack and
Rose, you have a crush.
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If you read
Romeo and Juliet and immediately identify with the hopelessly deep love of the
main characters, you have a crush.
7.
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Consider your thoughts while reading
this article. While reading this, has there been one specific person on
your mind while reading this article? If you answer yes, it means you have a
crush on that person.
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